9.12.2008

Keeping it real

I am sure many of you have heard of this blog, Seriously So Blessed, but if you haven't, it is freaking hilarious!! It is a satirical blog playing off of the typical mormon mommy blog. The first time I saw it, I have to say, it rubbed me the wrong way. As I thought more about it, I realized it was rubbing me the wrong way because my blog has SO many of the things she is making fun of :) I went back and read through my blog, and man, it seems like my life is absolutely perfect! Now herein lies the dilemma. I am all for being positive and looking for the good. Going along with that, I don't like to record the negative, but come on, it happens, right? Life is not perfect, but I do think I AM very blessed, so I don't like complaining. I actually think its kind of dangerous to always try to make your life look so perfect, because then other people feel bad about themselves when they have struggles, when in fact, you (and I mean me:) may just be better at hiding them. So, long story short, here is my attempt at keeping it real: I love my kids and don't know what I would do without them, however, some days I feel like I need anger management classes. I lose it! There are some nights I cry after they are asleep because I know they deserved a better mommy that day. I love my home and think it is beautiful, but I am horrible at keeping it clean. Seriously, it is a daily struggle for me to keep it up. If I know someones coming over and I can pull it together, but if you just stop by, it probably won't be very pretty! I love my husband and I KNOW I got the better end of the deal in our marriage, but (GASP) we fight, we always make up, but we fight.
I will continue to post cute pics of the kids, and write about the fun things we do, but all in all, I am going to try to keep it a little more real! And also, I certainly hope this didn't make anyone feel bad. I love reading all of your blogs, and in a lot of ways they make me want to do more and be better. This post is (what else?:)all about me. I believe your blog is for YOU, so you should do with it what you want. I just found mine is sounding a little too perfect, and I want to be a little more down to earth than I have been.

6 comments:

Steven & Becky Heumann

I can't believe you loose your patience with your kids! It's horrible to say but I kind of enjoy knowing other's faults because it makes me not feel so bad about mine. Thanks for sharing. :)

The Pond's Lily Pad

Tonii:
You are so cute-thanks for keeping it real. Something I have learned in my short 20 years (I know, I've been 20 for 17 years...crazy huh!!) that while it's important to keep things real it's also important that we don't cross over the fine line of learning from our mistakes vs. shredding ourselves or putting ourselves down at the end of the day for making mistakes. If we hold ourselves to unreasonable standards, then we fall into Satan's trap of trying to achieve perfection, which can lead to obsession with the unattainable. If we can have the attitude as we reflect on our day that everybody makes mistakes and nobody is perfect (hey, isn't that a Hannah Montana song?!?!) and think of everything we have done as wives and mothers for our family, we'd be surprised at what a positive impact we've had on them. If we did something we're not proud of, thankfully we have mouths to use the word sorry and arms to hug our loved ones tight. And don't worry; everyone who has kids has a cluttered home at any given time, fights with their hubbs and yells at their kids and it's a relief to be able to share these frustrations with your friends because chances are they are all experiencing the same things, too!! I think in Relief Society that not only should we have the good news minute, we should have the real news minute. Wouldn't that help us support each other more as sisters and discourage us from putting up this perfect front that is so tempting to put up?

Luv yer guts!

Tonii

Thanks Steph, thats exactly what I was trying to say, but you did it so much more eloquently!

Hollie Hanson

Tonii- I love reading your posts. Every time I do, I realize you and I are so much alike and I wish we knew each other better. I love your candid honesty here. It made me laugh- in a good way. I too struggle with reality at times and trying to be perfect in the eyes of those around me. Even though I know I am so far from. And a lot of times I realize I cause myself even more stress and disappointment by trying to have that image. So you are right on here. It is good to have faults! We are all human after all. I went through my post. I don't write a lot, but I should be more open about things too. So Iw ill. Thanks for your inspiration and courage!

Maryann

I love this post, because I feel the same way! Actually, I'm sure 99.9 % of the people that read this feel the same way. The other .1 % has issues. :) Thanks for keeping it real... that's one of the reasons I think you're so incredible!!

Karlee Turner

Maryann is right...I think we all feel this way! So thanks for keeping it real but still trying to be positive! You're great!